The Truth

After reviving the blog with my last post, I typed up our whole birth story to share, but posting that alone will only sound like a sweet and fairy-tale like end to 2017 and I'd like to be more honest than that. Last year was a really hard year for us. We found out we were pregnant in February and it nearly floored us. We'd been married for 6 years at that time and had just bought our first home and began to settle into life. While we were in a good place in life to begin a family, it really wasn't on our radar. We had both been students for most of our marriage, and we were looking forward to spending some real quality time with each other before we thought of kids. We had dreams of traveling, conquering more National Parks, and exploring more nooks and crannies of Birmingham. We were not thinking about kids. And while we congratulated our friends that were growing their families with baby one or baby two, we both were happy with our family just consisting of the two of us.

In February, when I held onto the home pregnancy test that said "Yes" (because I'm apparently too big of a skeptic to trust lines when it deals with additional humans), I cried. Hard. I'm hesitant to share this, because I know the struggle and heartbreak of infertility is so real to so many, and to some very near to us. All I could think is how not ready I was for this change of life that was about to unfold. Physically, yes we were ready: we had a home to bring a baby into, I had a supporting husband to be a loving father, and we both had jobs to help support an addition. But mentally, I was not there, at all. I'm a planner, and this wasn't in my life plan. Not right now.

I questioned God so many times in 2017. Why us? Why now? Why a baby - a lifetime commitment? Why would You trust us with a new life? Why should I get to be a mother? Why do You give me this opportunity and not another woman who's heart has ached and longed for this for months or years? Why would you surprise me like this, God?

I'd love to share with you that He spoke to me and gave me some wise words to share with you, but I don't have specific answers to these specific questions. But what I did learn in 2017 is that God does not abide by our plans. We are not in control of this life, no matter what timeline we set for ourselves or what plans we lay out. God has His own outline, the original and official blueprints of our lives. He has a designed purpose for each of us, and his plans will reflect that. He is not surprised or taken aback by things unforeseen to us, because he knows already what is before us. I read of Jonah and his persistence to run from God because God's plan for him didn't meet Jonah's expectations. God was sending Jonah into a land that he had no intention to ever step foot in. But Jonah's purpose was to go and speak to Nineveh. You can choose to run or trust. My heart initially wanted to run. And by initially, I mean months. Months of people asking about our pregnancy and how excited we were, when deep down I was so uncertain of what was happening. By October the idea of her was so real, and I was coming around to the idea of having a daughter that I was definitely excited to meet her!

I still wonder why God would entrust me with this little girl. But then I look at her sweet face and see so much potential. And I've realized this plan of His is not only about me, or Jesse, but involves a beautiful story of Brenna and how he will use her for his glory. And that makes my heart swell. So whatever part of life you are in - whether you've been blindsided or you feel sunken down in a season of waiting, God is in control. He has plans for you, and they are bigger and greater than we could every imagine. It may not feel that way in the moment, but if we seek Him and his purpose for us, He can see us through our present.

photo credit: Asif Patel

Life Lately

Hey guys! It's been an entire year since I've last posted here!  I've had mixed emotions about keeping this blog going. Although I enjoy documenting our family adventures and travels, I've also felt that what I share is silly and unimportant. Instagram has also been such an easy place to share photos that I just defaulted to there. My goal is not to blog and gain hundreds of followers, it's really just to document some of our favorite moments and share them with those that love us. So, on that note, let's see if I can keep up with 2018!

This past year was the least and most eventful year of our lives. The end of 2016 (throwback!) was spent settling into our new home and getting into the groove of new work (for Emma).  In February we found out we were pregnant and I swear I spent all of last year mentally preparing for baby. We didn't take as many trips as we normally do, and overall kind of got into a funk of being homebodies.  Which, in hindsight, was dumb because I had a really smooth pregnancy. We did go to Charleston with our friends Tim and Courtney to celebrate their accomplishments being finished with school and considered it our last trip before baby.

Most of last year is a blur, attempting to figure out the new phase of life we were about to be projected into. (Which, by the way, you can't possibly fully prepare for... although I think we've done ok. ;) )  Then October rolled around and Brenna finally arrived! I cannot even begin to describe what a joy it has been to be her mom. I used to roll my eyes in my mind when people would say, "your lives are about to change!" Mostly because you also receive comments like, "You better do everything fun now, because you won't get to once you have kids." So this "change" people spoke of sounded like a horrible, boring change for the worse, when in fact it's the most sweet and enjoyable life altering change we've experienced.  Now, some of you parents are laughing right now because we are only 3 months into this gig and I'm sure there are some of you that have already lived through this blissful time and know there are moments you just want to shove your kids in a closet and run away (but never do, of course).  We'll look to you during those times to secure our sanity. :)

In the upcoming weeks I'll share our birth story and some other thoughts on this roller coaster of life. But let's be real, that's not what one looks like after giving birth and welcoming a new little one into the world. That's the face of a lady who has been pampered by nurses for 3 days and who is armed with numbing spray and a donut to ride home with. Just keepin' it real (you're welcome ladies).  This is more like it:

San Diego, CA - What to Eat

As you know, our vacations consist of a lot of eating, and San Diego was no different. In fact, it was one of my favorite dining cities, where we had one of our all time favorite meals! I recently was looking through photos to create our Christmas card, and asked Jesse if he thought anyone would appreciate a card of food pictures... ;)
I had a few places picked out ahead of time from Pinterest and other blogs. We met up at the end of the week with Jesse's brother and sister-in-law, who had a few food requests as well. Otherwise, we would search as on the go, depending on which side of town we were on. Here are a few of our favorites:

Chocolat Cafe and Gelato - gelato and ice cream shops are all over, but I think we hit the jackpot at this random stop. The gelato was so beautiful and vibrant. We picked four flavors to split and they were all equally delicious.

Extraordinary Desserts - This place definitely lives up to it's name. I've never seen such intricate and beautiful cakes and pastries! You can dine in for dinner and dessert, or order something sweet directly from the case.

Donut Bar - originated in San Diego, and now has multiple locations. Their donuts are huge! They claim to be the "best," but honestly they were kind of a dud. Until the guy behind the counter started passing out made to order Donut French Toast. This, my friends, is their best kept secret.

Considering you can see Mexico as you fly into San Diego, there is plenty of Mexican food and inspiration! We chose Los Panchos de Charly, in walking distance of our hotel, for taquitos and tostadas. I wouldn't say this is the place to go, but it was fresh and yummy, and really hit the spot.

Okay, now I must tell you about one of our very favorite places we've ever eaten. While on a city tour I overheard a local tell another couple the best place in their Little Italy district is Davanti Enoteca. I honestly had no idea what he said, but I repeated the syllables long enough to pull out my phone and save it. We walked over the next day for lunch and had an amazing Italian beef sandwich with dipping au jus. Such a simple sandwich, but out of this world flavor! We also chose a selection of Salumi e Formaggi (meat and cheese): taleggio cheese, cured Berkshire salami in truffle oil, and duck salami. Freaking amazing. One of the best things I've ever eaten. We returned the next day with Matt and Heidi for brunch and another round of cheese and meats.

After lunch in Little Italy, we returned for dinner that night, and decided on a whim for Buon Appetito. We both really wanted a good bowl of pasta. We lucked out and were seated almost immediately although there was a very long line. We were given a bread loaf and cup of marina. An incredible, fresh tomato marina, that has changed all future marina eating experiences. Few marinas will ever measure up, I'm certain. Jesse opted for the Linguine Boscomare (shrimp, scallops, clams in wine sauce), while I went for the Borsettini di Vitello e Funghi (pocket pasta filled with veal and mushrooms) in their creamy marina sauce. Y'all, if I had only one meal left in this life I would fly to San Diego for this pasta. No regrets. Oh, and let's not forget about the cannoli! We took Matt and Heidi here the very next night.

While exploring La Jolla with Matt and Heidi we made sure to eat an appropriate amount of dessert. One stop was the Baked Bear, a build-your-own cookie/brownie ice cream sandwich. Not a new idea, but we all approved of their flavors!

Another top contender on this trip was Hammond's Ice Cream. You can order in a cup or cone. Or if you're like us and can't decide want to try them all, you can have a flight of mini cones! Very unique and prominent flavors. We would definitely seek this place out again! Check out their website and drool over a few flavors like Vanilla Rose and Lychee Cream.

Lastly, Wow Wow Waffle, which had to be the most unique atmosphere. It was an outdoor restaurant, sort of in a large alley way between two other buildings. It had fun seating with large wooden tables and succulents all around. They gave the food truck vibe without actually being a food truck. But somehow they produced these delicious waffles from behind a curtain. Maybe it was magic. I dunno. They make Belgium yeast waffles (not your typical waffle batter) - is their thing. Since we were there for brunch we both started with something pretty ordinary as far as toppings go. Next we split a bacon/avocado/goat cheese waffle.

There was more food had, but these were the outstanding dishes. San Diego was a perfect trip. So many activities to do. It was a very clean city, and I always felt safe walking around even on my own. The weather was perfect, and the food top notch. We'll be back for you, SD!

San Diego, CA

That one time I took vacation two weeks after starting a new job, flew home, and bought a house the next day. That was August. Let's reminisce.

Back in August, Jesse had a work trip to San Diego and I planned to tag along. Fortunately my new job was very flexible with a trip I already had booked. :) We spent a week in San Diego, and it quickly became one of our favorite places we've visited. First of all, the weather is absolutely perfect. It's a decent size city, but not too congested, with various sub-areas within the city that have their own unique atmospheres. Oh, and there is AMAZING food there, but we'll get to that.

We opted for a multi-day, multi-use pass for 3 main attractions: San Diego Zoo, Zoo Safari Park, and Sea World. (Aside: I had very mixed feeling about going to and supporting Sea World after watching the documentary Blackfish. I still do, but part of me is glad that I went and was able to see the final orca show. We know more about orcas because of their lives in captivity, but some of those findings are extremely sad and unfortunate situations have occurred. I'm very interested to learn of the changes Sea World will make in the future, as their original obtainment and current treatment of the orcas has been questionable.)  All three of these parks are huge, and it takes more than a day to fully conquer each of them (seeing all exhibits and shows)- even as fast as we walk. We still rushed through some parts, but overall, felt we experienced each park to the fullest without being overwhelmed.

(Seriously, my life would be complete if I could hold a koala.)

(A friend recently pointed out that there are only 4 pandas in the United States: Smithsonian in DC, San Diego, Atlanta, and Memphis. She has seen them all, and we're halfway there! Thankfully the other two are closer to home!)

(The Skylift was a quick way to cross the park!)

(The elephant exhibit was incredible! They had a ton of room, and it was so fun to sit and watch them walk, eat, and interact with each other.)

(Even baby hippos are adorable! Look at that smile!)

(I'm not sure what this creature is, but it's eyes were the coolest I've ever seen!)

The Safari Park, although similar, was a completely different experience. As much as I liked the zoo, I personally enjoyed the safari a little more because the exhibits were more open and natural. You also ride a tram through the African "safari" fields where animals are roaming more freely.

(We were able to watch the gorilla feeding, which was fun. The older male silver-back definitely rules the camp!)

There were a couple of days Jesse had to work, and I went out on my own. Balboa Park is an outdoor area of large Spanish-style buildings from the early 1900s. It was a beautiful area to walk around in. There were also museums and gardens to explore.

Since my mom instilled the love of cats in me at a young age, and deep down I would be happy being a crazy cat lady, I had to go to the Cat Cafe. You buy a cup of coffee, then get to sit and play with the kitties! They are partnered with the humane society, so all the cats are up for adoption! They are well loved and well fed (aka - all fat!). 

Sea World was great, but a little dated. And also more difficult to maneuver from one exhibit to the next (even with map in hand, and landmarks in sight). We ran from show to exhibit to show. Then Jesse convinced me to ride a roller coaster, which I'm rather afraid of. However, I thought it a reasonable idea - until it was time to load into my seat. I immediately questioned my decision, but it was too late. The bar came down, my feet were dangling, and I hung to the guardrail for dear life. Forgive me, roller coaster lovers, but it was not fun. I could barely breathe the whole time. The photo that they take and try to sell to you at the end, had me clinging to my chest like I was having a heart attack. 

We watched the dolphin show, the seal/dogs/cats show, and of course, the orcas. I have to say, it was pretty incredible. They are brilliant animals who are trained so well. Again, mixed feelings, but it leaves you full of awe to watch. Before the show, the mom and baby orca willingly came to the splash pad several times without instruction to see the crowd!

Matt and Heidi joined us for the last weekend there, and we saved several things to do and explore with them.

The Ho Chi Minh trial, which starts as a tiny, inconspicuous path in the middle of a neighborhood, and quickly turns into quite the challenge - including sandstone walls, a rope to shimmy down the cliff, and finally the beach!

Coronado Island and Hotel, wear the guys learned to surf!

They also snorkeled in La Jolla cove with sea lions!

We drove around Point Loma and toured the light house.

Walked along the bluff of Sunset Cliffs. (We didn't catch a sunset here, but I'm sure they are epic.)

And walked across a suspension bridge that's nestled right in the middle of the city, over a small valley.

This was a wonderful trip, and I highly recommend San Diego as a travel destination! I'm so thankful I was able to join Jesse on this trip and that we were able to meet up with family at the same time! This post got a little lengthy, so stay tuned to find out what to eat in SD!